Little too late

I have to rant for a minute and just say that I find it truly sad and somewhat disgusting how certain people start asking me NOW when I'm due, if my husband will be home anytime soon and who is taking care of my other kids while I'm in the hospital.

Can't handle my bitchy attitude? Well excuse the hell out of me but I am a little hurt that for the passed 9 months I didn't matter and no one gave a shit about me, my husband and kids and the fact that we were told our baby was dead when he wasn't.

No one bothered on your end. No one ever asked how we were. How we were dealing.

After we found out that it was a false diagnosis and our baby was alive as can be, it seemed like nobody cared anymore to even ask if we needed anything so far away from anyone.
I know there's been other "big events" and "great changes" on your end but
I am still waiting on anyone of you to ask at least about the kids and how they've been handling their daddy leaving in early march. Well don't ask now, if you truly cared it wouldn't take me ranting for you to realize that you have failed them.

Oh and I don't mean to worry you seeing how your life must be so darn busy, but I'm GBS positive which isn't something you wanna hear when you're about to give birth and our SON (yes you can stop calling him "it") may have downs. You'd know all these things if you would be an active part of my life, our life.

And sadly, the kids have had the worst time with their dad being gone, they have been on their worst behavior which is normal but it'd be pretty effin awesome if you'd stop calling them the best behaved kids a mother could ask for and telling me I'm a shitty mom and that I'm ungrateful and all I ever do is complain about them. What do YOU know? You know absolutely nothing!

I've been losing weight due to all the stress rather than gaining. I've been a wreck but I've made it. I'm here, I'm alive, so are the kids.

So. Let's make one thing clear. I appreciate the "nice gesture" of now trying to show an interest because you know it must be about "that time" now and neighbors and friends who know me are probably asking you "so did she have the baby yet" and it probably makes you feel like a complete moron not knowing the answer, but I can clearly live without your dumb questions and your false pretends.

Like I said my husband made it home on Tuesday, the kids are in heaven and won't let him out of his sight! I take in every second I can having him home! We are happy as can be!
His mom is coming in today, she's taking care of the kids while I'm in the hospital with my husband by my side. Yes, THAT'S one thing you forgot to ask, it's not just about who takes the kids it's also about who gives ME some support while giving birth.
When she leaves his dad will stay with us for a couple of days. On the 17th of July it'll be back to being just the kids and me. But I'm sure THAT you'll forget as well, just as you did when he left in march. But that's ok. I really didn't expect much to begin with but it just irritates me beyond words when all of the sudden people pretend that they care. Two days before my due date is kinda late don't you think?

Usually I'd say better late than never, in this case it's different. Sometimes "never" would be the better choice.

End of rant.

Best regards,
Stefanie Adams-Figueroa 

"if you only have love for your own race, then you only leave space to discriminate" 

supercalifragilisticexpialidocious

Somebody asked me today "how are you feeling?" my answer: supercalifragilisticexpialidocious
Simple as that :O)
I know I know I've been slacking big time lately but blame it on the fact that I'm due to squeeze out a melon sized head through my vajayjay in more or less than 20 days...
BUT I woke up today to see that Army Wives' Lives has posted an interview with me about my blog today, so I thought I'd share that with y'all :O)
http://networkedblogs.com/iSZ1n
I'll be back soon - promise!
Best regards,
Stefanie Adams-Figueroa 

"if you only have love for your own race, then you only leave space to discriminate" 

An obese chick's rant :O)

Breathe. Ok. I'm asking, no I'm begging you all to correct me on this blog, leave your comments, whether you agree or disagree. I can't possibly be the only person thinking this way, so please enlighten me in any way possible.

So there's this bodyshop ad, heck let me pull up the pic so you know what I'm talking about...



So what we see here is IN MY OPINION a doll that is clearly overweight. Would she be an actual woman, depending on her height, she might even be considered obese depending on her BMI. People that know me, know I am NOT skinny. I was 10 years ago, but between two kids, a lot of emotional changes and stress and of course getting older, I turned into something worse looking than this doll. Not because "that's just what happens" no, because I LET IT happen. Sure gravity will do it's best, and you can't fix stretched out skin unless you get an operation BUT being OBESE has NOTHING to do with having kids. Yes your body changes when you have kids, but heck no am I gonna let anyone tell me that it's NORMAL to be obese or overweight after you have kids. IT IS NOT.

Again. IN MY OPINION this doll looks NOT healthy. Now I don't agree with stick figure models that show every single bone on their body. It's disgusting and we all know that also isn't healthy.
But I seriously can NOT relate in any way, to women who are saying the doll in this picture is what we should teach our daughters to reach for! What the hell is wrong with you? Yes we need to teach our daughters and not just them, we need to teach our children in general that IT IS indeed ok to NOT look like skin and bones! I am all for that. But it shocks me that there are so many women who truly believe that this doll is our future. "most women look like that doll". Yes sadly, the majority of women in the United States of America does look like that. I'm not gonna argue with that. But you blind fool, that doesn't mean it's what they're supposed to look like!!!! I know there's no point in arguing with someone who obviously can't differeniate between fact and fiction but goodness gracious they have to invent a way to slap people upside the head through the internet!!!
AGAIN I AM CONSIDERED OBESE, borderline but I'm there. Well I can't really say right now because I'm pregnant and apparently I've gained only 6lbs so far and I'm due in 26 days so yes, I might "only" be overweight now but nonetheless. You can't accuse me of being "just a skinny bitch who is calling all ppl that look like that doll, fat and lazy" Newsflash, I NEVER SAID THAT. I am so sick and tired of this effin drama coming from little girls that have absolutely NO life experience and can't have a discussion based on facts and stick to their ignorant and blind ways just for the heck of it. Let's see how many I can round up who act just as imature as me hehehehehehe *insert stupid shallow laugh here*

I'm the first one who will admit I am wrong and the first who will realize when it's just simply not worth wasting another word. But lord do I wanna grab some of these kids by their shoulders and just shake the stupid out of them.

Hey, I'm sure there's plenty of people who think the doll in the picture is NOT overweight looking. It's all in the eye of the beholder, right?

But, this is my PERSONAL blog and I will state my PERSONAL opinion. Same goes for my personal websites or whatever else I call my own. If you don't agree with it, give me facts, don't sit there like a little sourpuss and call me "ignorant" and "mean" and that I'm "attacking" you. GROW THE EFF UP ALREADY!

Having an opinion is one thing - you aren't always gonna find people who agree with what you have to say.

Voicing your opinion publicly is another - if you can't stand up for yourself, then you really need to THINK FIRST before you open your mouth...